The Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys

Narcissists cannot survive without their enablers. Flying monkeys are people who turn a blind eye to red flags, blatant abuse, and the narcissist causing most issues rather than resolving them. These people are usually unaware of the abuse they are perpetuating and participating in, but ignorance does not make the damage they create heal faster.

Flying monkeys also play into narcissistic family cults. When narcissistic supply is not easily obtainable, a narcissist always has their family to fall back on. Narcissists rarely go no contact with their family of origin, even when there are highly dysfunctional members. Turning these dysfunctional family members into flying monkeys allows the narcissist to perpetuate abuse on their target whenever they choose. Family members in a narcissistic family cult are taught loyalty and blind devotion from a very young age, so these flying monkeys will normally last a lifetime.

Narcissists use flying monkeys to spread and perpetuate their smear campaign after their true colors are seen. These people are used to do the narcissist’s dirty grunt work. Flying monkeys do not think for themselves and often take everything the narcissist says at face value. Even when faced with the truth about the narcissist, flying monkeys would rather stick their head in the sand than admit the narcissist is not the victim he/she claims to be.

A narcissist needs to have flying monkeys for narcissistic supply and reinforcements. These people allow the narcissist to continue to believe all the grandiose things they believe about themselves. Flying monkeys may be unknowingly perpetuating narcissistic abuse, but this does not mean they belong in your life. Going no contact with all people who have bought the narcissist’s fantasy, that they sell as reality, is imperative to your recovery.

Remember the truth is often not as easy to swallow as the great fantasy the narcissist sells. Have compassion for these people, because at one point in time you were one of the narcissist’s flying monkeys too.

Xoxo

Nicole

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Why Are You People Shocked By My Humanity?

Do you know what it is like to be Anti-Social with a large emotional spectrum and an overload of empathy? It hurts. I have not connected to a human since my Grandma died, but I feel a ton for humanity as a whole. It is frustrating, because I think about us as a collective. However, people have always have treated me as if I am not apart of whatever you all consider yourself to be.

Where are your children like me? Where are my people? If it hurts you to see me, what happens when you see your children? You just don’t go there, huh? I worked at a group home while in Sierra Vista, because I thought I could make a difference. Well, I learned more than I bargained for. This is normally what happens though. My heart leads me somewhere and my brain is just not ready for what I find. You believe them when they tell you I am shallow, huh? Can you feel my humanity in my words?

April 19, 2021, the day the world finally broke me and my family sat and watched with joy. When I get emotionally overwhelmed, I try to logic my way out of it and disconnect from the 3D world. Thus, trying to negotiating with terrorists and forgetting they aren’t human. I know better, these people have given up their hearts a long time ago. Way before I met them. Are you past the point of no return?

Why do they create children like me if they are just going to hate and kill us? They haven’t stopped. With all the chemicals in Oregon, why are you people still breeding? You know nothing good will come out of providing these people with more souls. This is why I have never had a child and have chosen abortion. I will hurt my own heart, before I will allow myself to be manipulated into hurting another.

Not having connected to many humans means I understand the value of it. It is literally priceless. And there is still room for humanity and mistakes in that pricelessness. My dogs are the only living beings that exist in my heart and they have more humanity than most humans. People have tortured my dogs just because they are mine and I love them. My love comes with a great cost, my Mom taught me this very early. This is why Haywood tries to bite. He has lead poisoning and understands the evil of humanity more than me. We have been detoxing since 2015/2016, but now I understand why this is a threat. When I meet myself as deep as I have through health and healing, it threatens their way of life and their dysfunction.

You know your children have everything inside them that I do, right? You understand they deserve to be healed too, right? When you remove the lead from your environment and body magic happens. Feelings emerge that were fleeting before and become common practice. I still wake up everyday happy and see the beauty of the world. As a child, I did not think this would ever happen or was even possible. My Mom told me that I needed to come to terms with the fact that I would never feel good in grade school. Have you told your children this too? Or do you let the people who work at the group homes do this for you?

I can heal your children just like I healed myself. This is why you look like you have seen a ghost, huh?

Xoxo

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