Oregon Revolutionary People-Bill Cavinee Always Insurance

My Oregon revolutionary people, I need your help. Remember this summer when I went back to Oregon and got an insurance license and job. Well, it was a pretty bad experience working for the dark side with daily attempted murder And I may have to go back and do it again in January. So, I am hoping you can help me show that there will be accountability to be had for destroying me in an overt manner for the covert war.

If you have your insurance with Always Insurance Bill Cavinee an Allstate agency, please call or email them to transfer it to another Allstate agent. You do not have to do anything or change anything, just change who you deal with and who receives payment for your insurance. Also, I would have your insurance looked over because it is always good to get another set of eyes on your policies.

Alone we are not that powerful, but when we work together we create waves.

Love Always & Thank You

Nicole Graves

Mr Utah, You Know Your People Are Next

Mr Utah,

I have seen more black people in the past week than I ever have in my life. And I have been trying to think about what to say to make you able to call off your army. You all are just one step above the Hispanic people and it is a very small step. You know there is a covert genocide against you all too right? It is just on a more covert level.

I do not have the internet as I write this so I am lacking in facts. But I know you know. Black people have higher rates of chronic disease, but especially diabetes and heart disease. Soul Food may not have as many nightshades as Mexican food, but it does have tons of chicken, pork, and fats that throw off Omega 6 to 3 ratios. These make you all prime targets for the epigenetic triggers of learning disabilities and chronic illness. My family cult is targeting you all to keep you all small and manageable by keeping you all from thinking for yourself just as the Hispanic people. Sure Hispanic food is more aimed at total destruction, but soul food and you all’s way of life is designed to keep you all small and manageable and enslaved. Just like how I found out I am a second class citizen on this trip merely because I am a woman, you all are second class citizens merely because of your race.

Black people and Hispanic people have very tough lives, just like I have had. And this is why you were able to see me, because you have experienced pain too. And you want to avoid more pain for your people by keeping them in this war. I get it, it makes sense in a conservative way because you do not want to loose the little privilege you all have. However, you all deserve so much more just like I do and the Hispanics do. We deserve to belong in a world where we are not viewed as second class citizens just because of who we are.

I cannot promise I will be able to do this alone, but I can promise that I am not going to be able to do this without your help. If you cannot overtly help me and marry me and protect me from my family, at least call off your people. Your people deserve more than the lives they have and the traditions that keep them small and manageable. Mac and cheese is just as bad as eating tacos(I am being super stereotypical I know). BBQ is a way to ruin meat from being healthyand double whammy if it is pork or chicken. (Fragment: They make Kingsford charcoal out my by Mom’s house, it’s destruction in the name of BBQ) Margarine, bacon grease, and vegetable oils are designed to make people sick. I love fattening food but it only is good for you when it is good quality saturated fats. Not made in a lab stuff that is designed to make people sick.

I really do not know what kind of food is not designed to kill us, rather than raw beef. But I am still alive. This is what you asked me when I talked to you for the first time in Santa Fe. I have stayed alive because I eat raw meat with my hands. Any kind of civility is just an opportunity to poison and kill me. Just like my family cult does to everyone, but especially your people. They destroy you, but tell you that you all do not have it as bad as the Hispanic people because you are allowed a seat at the table. Well, that seat at the table is a way to keep you manageable and kill you with civility.

Please help me and show your love to me and your people by exiting this war. Just because they let you sit at the table does not mean they respect you and/or want you there. They just know it is a means to keep you manageable and in control. Once the Hispanic genocide has been completed to satisfaction, you all will be next and you know it. I am you all’s last hope too. This is why you sought me out years ago.

I understand the war games make you have to put on airs and be someone you are not. Just like my life has made me have to be hard and have boundaries that aren’t really human. I have to prepare for people to destroy me the first chance they get and this is what you are doing. But please bet on me and choose me. I have done the unimaginable and with some help I will keep doing it because there is no other option.

Let your people choose me instead of destroy me. So we all can have better lives that do not involve suffering and being in pain(emtoinally, spiritually, and physically) everyday we are alive. Help me build a brighter future for us all because you know together me and you can be unstoppable. You are my Marc Anthony, it is our destiny to do this together.

Love Always and Forever

Nicole Graves

13 Signs Of Complex PTSD

Complex PTSD is one of the parting gifts of leaving narcissist abuse behind. It really is the gift that keeps on giving and many people do not understand how deep it’s effects run. Yes, you survived the abuse, but now you have to process it all and reprogram your brain and body to realize you are safe and worth love.

Growing up in a narcissistic family cult means I never knew what safe or love actually felt like. I had a weird obsession with the Holocaust as a child, because it was the only group of people I could relate to. I had prison guards, rather than parents, and felt like a prisoner of war. This is what separates PTSD from CPTSD. PTSD is an isolated incident and CPTSD is living on-going trauma.

I do not know if many people can understand what living a life of trauma feels like, but it is a corrosive experience that washes away your soul. Growing up as a prisoner of war made being in a romantic relationship with a narcissist seem like a cake walk. I stayed because even at its worse, it was still a hundred times better than the abuse I grew up with that I thought was love. When you are raised in a war zone an encounter with a terrorist is not really enough to make you see the red flags.

Even after being diagnosed with PTSD when I was 20, I still did not feel understood and/or resolution. I continued to downplayed my childhood abuse, because I had forgotten most of it. My brain was protecting me and I am very grateful. During this whole period of being diagnosed with PTSD and having a nervous breakdown, my BPD Mother was present enough to gaslight me and to get the information she needed to garner sympathy from everyone she could. Staying in contact with my BPD Mother added over a decade to my trauma and recovery. I spent over 15 years on anxiety medication continuing to think the problem was me and my inability to be resilient. This is why I write about narcissistic abuse and growing up in a narcissistic family cult.

Here are 13 signs you are suffering from CPTSD:

  • experienced childhood neglect
  • experienced other types of abuse early in life
  • experienced domestic abuse
  • experienced human trafficking
  • experienced being a prisoner of war
  • lived in a region affected by war
  • Difficulty regulating emotions, which can manifest as extreme anger, depression, suicidal thoughts, and quick swings from one to another
  • Losing memories of the trauma or reliving them
  • Dissociation, feeling detached from oneself
  • Changes in self-perception, including feeling totally different from other people and feeling ashamed or guilty
  • Challenges in relationships, including difficulty trusting others, seeking out a rescuer, or even seeking an abuser
  • Distorted perceptions of the perpetrator or abuser, which may include ascribing all the power to this person, becoming obsessed with him or her, or becoming preoccupied with revenge
  • Loss of a system of meanings, such as losing one’s core beliefs, values, religious faith, or hope in the world and other people

CPTSD does not have to rule your life. Healing is a process, but it is possible. Recovering from narcissistic abuse and CPTSD is one of the most rewarding and difficult experiences I have ever had. There is so much hope on the other side, start your journey today.



(written FEBRUARY 20, 2019)

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So You Have Complex PTSD, Now What-6 Steps

Complex PTSD is not something that is well known, even in the mental health industry. This disorder plagues people who have encountered narcissistic abuse and trauma. If you do not learn to manage and minimize the symptoms associated with CPTSD you will be bound to a BPD like life. This was enough to scare me straight after experiencing the wrath of BPD trauma filled individuals my whole life. Recovery is the divider between personality disorders and survivors. Cluster b personality disorders stem from trauma, so you have seen your future if you choose to skip this step.

The journey to recovery is far from simple, but it is manageable if you break it down into steps. These are the steps that helped me make progress without overwhelming my body and mind with uncontrollable anxiety and igniting my fight or flight response. Your body and mind want to heal, you just have to give it the right tools.

  1. Arm yourself with knowledge about cluster b personality disorders-know thy enemy
  2. Identify your root wound and original abuser-you were groomed by someone in childhood to accept these kind of people and ignore the red flags
  3. Identify the toxic people in your life currently-find the red flags you have been ignoring and the people who make you feel uneasy, bad, guilty, unworthy, less-than, etc
  4. Go No Contact with all the toxic people in your life-use the Grey Rock technique when you cannot go No Contact
  5. Find a knowledgeable counselor, coach, or friend who is familiar with narcissistic abuse and recovery
  6. Let the healing journey begin and be patient with yourself-healing is not a linear process

The shock of realizing that your whole life has been preparing and grooming you to be a pawn for cluster b personality disorders to use is a heavy reality to swallow. However, feeling sorry for yourself will not help your healing journey or recovery. Realize you are human and this is apart of your evolution. The real tragedy would be to continue to live in the dark as a pawn for toxic people and become toxic yourself.


Nicole Graves

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery-A Spiritual Revolution

Narcissists do not just abuse people, they wage an energetic war on our body, mind, spirit, and life force. Many people feel severing contact from all toxic people in their life is extreme and unnecessary. This is understandable, because it is a drastic measure and often includes cutting most people out of your life.

The fear of being alone is at the root of thinking no contact with all toxic people is extreme. Why in the world do you not deserve to have all healthy respectful people in your life? Is it because it would be a completely new paradigm? People who experience narcissistic abuse have experienced energetic warfare since before they can remember(and before their birth). When we are born to toxic people, who groom us to be in narcissistic abusive relationships as adults, we do not know what it is like to have a healthy energy body(Read How Narcissists Use Energetic Cords-Spiritual Warfare here).

Eckhart Tolle speaks often of how humans live out of their pain body. Well, healing your energetic body goes hand in hand with healing your pain body and becoming present in the moment. Most people have never experienced their own energy untainted by others. It takes months to remove all the energetic hooks and cords that have been inserted into our energetic body throughout our lifetime. Most people are completely unaware of the energy play that cluster b personalities use.

Without a connection to source energy, cluster b personality disorders are energetic vampires who are always in fear of energetically drowning. Thus, every time we interact with a toxic person our energetic body is injured. After a lifetime of having our life source energy stolen and siphoned, most people have no clue how powerful their own life force energy truly is.

When someone says they do not believe cutting all the toxic people out of their life is necessary for their recovery, they are basically saying they do not deserve all nontoxic interactions. We all deserve to be treated fairly and not be preyed upon. Until you can say this for yourself, you are not ready to recover.

Are you done being abused yet?



Living Like A Grey Rock

Do you know what it is like to have never had a real conversation with anyone? I do. I break people when I fire on all cylinders, people can rarely handle the truth. This makes me not want to even try to communicate with anyone. It’s a waste of energy, because I never get what I truly seek out of it. I prefer to write/blog about my life, thoughts, and feelings. Rather than interact with people who will gaslight me.

“The grey rock method involves communicating in an uninteresting way when interacting with abusive or manipulative people. The name “grey rock” refers to how those using this approach become unresponsive, similar to a rock. The technique may involve: avoiding interactions with the abusive person.” https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/grey-rock

I am sure this is how others with Asperger’s feel, too. It’s lonely to be so smart. No one really can keep up or even wants to try. It is easier to play dead like the others on the autism spectrum who lack verbal skills. They are smarter than most people give them credit for. Everyone on the Autism spectrum has more dynamic energy compared to neurotypicals.

We represent the exception to the rule and the fact that we are often in families with narcissists just adds to our lack of interest in forming relationships with others. In my experience, I have never not had to conform in order to create a lasting bond/relationship. Can you see how this could turn us off and make us not want to try?

One day, I hope you all try to meet us half way because we adapt to your neurotypical world everyday in countless ways.




Parking At My Mom’s House

I have found a weird kind of safety parking at my Mom’s house. Her house is toxic and makes my liver hurt and most of her food is poisoned. But she is not to blame. She is living in her own Truman Show just as most of the women in our family. Luckily, I have always been the black sheep so she understands that I question everything. It is just who I have always been and she knows my favorite question has always been “Why?”

My thyroid/throat, chest, and liver hurt when I am in her house for a long period of time. All my binders and vitamins that have been in my Jeep have been poisoned. They give me the lead lips and angry feelings. I have not been this angry in a long time and after reading the past handful of blog posts I know you all can see it too. This is how I felt most of my life. I was a really angry and anxious person. It is so different than the person I have become since I left Oregon.

The cult leaders must have wrote me off as dead until I started speaking out about being on the Autism spectrum and being an INFJ and genius. Why are they so against me being me? It must threaten who they are and what they plan to do. Who else has questioned their mental state after watching content on TikTok? Did you grow up in a family that felt like a cult? Were the men in your family covert narcissists? And the women/Mothers BPD? I would love anyone who can relate to my story to comment and let me know I am not alone.



The Narcissist’s Flying Monkeys

Narcissists cannot survive without their enablers. Flying monkeys are people who turn a blind eye to red flags, blatant abuse, and the narcissist causing most issues rather than resolving them. These people are usually unaware of the abuse they are perpetuating and participating in, but ignorance does not make the damage they create heal faster.

Flying monkeys also play into narcissistic family cults. When narcissistic supply is not easily obtainable, a narcissist always has their family to fall back on. Narcissists rarely go no contact with their family of origin, even when there are highly dysfunctional members. Turning these dysfunctional family members into flying monkeys allows the narcissist to perpetuate abuse on their target whenever they choose. Family members in a narcissistic family cult are taught loyalty and blind devotion from a very young age, so these flying monkeys will normally last a lifetime.

Narcissists use flying monkeys to spread and perpetuate their smear campaign after their true colors are seen. These people are used to do the narcissist’s dirty grunt work. Flying monkeys do not think for themselves and often take everything the narcissist says at face value. Even when faced with the truth about the narcissist, flying monkeys would rather stick their head in the sand than admit the narcissist is not the victim he/she claims to be.

A narcissist needs to have flying monkeys for narcissistic supply and reinforcements. These people allow the narcissist to continue to believe all the grandiose things they believe about themselves. Flying monkeys may be unknowingly perpetuating narcissistic abuse, but this does not mean they belong in your life. Going no contact with all people who have bought the narcissist’s fantasy, that they sell as reality, is imperative to your recovery.

Remember the truth is often not as easy to swallow as the great fantasy the narcissist sells. Have compassion for these people, because at one point in time you were one of the narcissist’s flying monkeys too.



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Narcissistic Abuse: Nature Versus Nurture

When you are raised by narcissists or toxic people nature versus nurture is not really a debate, because both were choatic messes. Nature refers to the genes you inherited and nurture refers to the environment you experienced. Both of these contributing factors need to be addressed in narcissistic abuse recovery.

Nature, being the genes you were born with, is not on your side when you are born into a narcissistic family. Toxic people do not take care of their health on more than a surface level. So being their offspring means you need to address these health issues. Heavy metals, parasites, and gut flora are some of the things that we inherit from our parents that have a large impact on the quality of our lives. All mental disorders are thought to begin in the gut. Cleaning up your microbiome is a great place to start when recovering from narcissistic abuse. Do a heavy metal cleanse, parasite cleanse, and start colonizing the good bacteria in your gut. These are all things that seem really simple, but after you begin to address these issues you start to realize how dynamic they really are.

Changing your environment is the easy part. Anyone can move and start over, but not everyone realizes nurture encompasses changing the way you react and respond to life. Changing your behaviors that reflect in your environment is changing your deep rooted programming. You were programmed by a toxic person who installed viruses into your programming that will cause you to self destruct. If you do not address these viruses and out of date programming it will lead to a whole system break down: emotionally, physically, mentally, and spiritually.



Nature versus nurture is not the question when recovering from narcissistic abuse. Genes and environment are both issues. The question is have you addressed both to fully encompass your healing in a holistic manner.

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Looking For A Researcher!

To Whom It May Concern

Hope you are enjoying this beautiful spring morning. I am writing because I am seeking a team to help me explore my potential. After growing up in a Russian Orthodox multi-generational narcissistic family cult in Springfield, Oregon in the 1980’s, I am finally coming to terms with what was taken from me. In the past year, I have discovered I have Aspergers and am a genius. With my background I have never had the opportunity to really partake in traditional education, but I do believe that knowledge is power. 

I seek to research my brain and my emotions. My cult created a super human of sorts. I am antisocial, but I am missing the need to destroy people. People are really unnecessary in my life. Unless it comes to getting my basic human needs met, because I was never taught life skills. People have always equaled pain. I do not understand if this is due to the Aspergers/genius or if it is due to being the scapegoat and not experiencing love as a child(nature vrs nurture). My rose colored glasses would have been beaten out of me if it was possible, but I was never able to conform. 

If we can pinpoint the factor that kept me logical instead of giving into emotions and thus destroying people. We can change the world and improve everyone’s childhood.

I understand this is a long shot and a lot to take in, but I have been fighting for freedom my whole life. And I will never be able to seek justice if I do not understand what all has been taken from me. 

I look forward to your response. Thank you for your time and consideration.

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Eureka! California?

The gas has been strong the past couple days, but they switched it up. It was a different chemical makeup that makes my eyes swell rather than lips and cheeks tingle. Luckily, a motorhome in Southern Oregon gave me a hint to keep moving. So, I kept traveling south.

Thank you to everyone who has given me messages along the way. If you want me to know something just feel it and look me in the eyes, I will get the message. The lady yesterday at McKay’s Market in Gold Beach, Oregon who was ahead of me in line was drowning in her abrasive feelings of guilt and shame. These are some of my Mom’s favorite emotions because they can be very motivating.

My Mom’s weakest links are in Southern Oregon(Gold Beach specifically). These people will turn the easiest, because they have profited the least. They are not active in their pursuit of evil, but rather it is something they want to put behind them and forget about. And they had forgotten about it, until I came to town.

I seem to reflect people’s deepest darkest secrets to them. They often look like they have seen a ghost when they see me. My existence is proof that their evil exists.



P.S. Eureka/Redding California is another cult. They are always in valley’s where the air quality can be controlled, to in turn control people.

Gold Beach, Oregon: Where They Forgot Their Evil

McKay’s Market Gold Beach, Oregon– Beware of the Deli Lady/Food

The people’s eyes say it all here. They had forgotten they did evil. My presence makes them extremely uncomfortable, because they just want to go on with their social norms and forget about what happened in the 1980’s. What did they do? Why did they do evil? How many people are they hiding/poisoning here that are like me?

The man from the laundry mat earlier today worked at the lumber mill that closed in Brookings, Oregon in 1989 and he had moved here from California. They had me fooled for a moment, but I have learned no one is kind to me without reason/motivation. Kindness does not come for free when your Mom is a cult leader who controls people by intertwining her evil with the evil of others.

What have you people done? What motivated you to take part in my Mom’s evil? Do you believe her to be God? Because if she is God, then I am Jesus.


P.S. What is the connection to Colorado?